The Dragonfly Effect
THE DRAGONFLY EFFECT
BY: TAMI HARPER WINN
The heat is broiling the skin on my legs as the afternoon sun crosses the sky this Father’s Day. I am sitting cross-legged in front of the unpolished marble stone etched with my father’s name, birthdate, and date of death. My fingers trace the outline of the dragonfly I had carved into the stone by his name – the physical representation of my dad now. I catch another tear as it spills from my eye. I wonder if the pain will ever not feel so heavy. I wish he was still here to kiss away all my boo-boos. At that very moment, a dragonfly flutters around the stone I sit before, stopping to dance for me in one small miracle of a moment. Chance? Or divine intervention?
I refer to it as the Dragonfly Effect and its not the first time this random act of unexplained phenomena has happened since he’s passed. Its just another indication to me that all is right in the universe and that life does go on. This is just a piece of my story. It is a special piece I choose to share with you not for debate or scrutiny, but to offer hope and comfort to those who may be struggling currently. Each of us have our dragonfly moments if we are in tune and pay attention to little coincidences that happen in our lives. Watch for your dragonfly, whatever that looks like to you, and notice the perfect peace that you experience in that single moment. It’s a blessing in times of need.
This week’s blog is being written during a difficult time of year for my family, and this year there is added pain to wade through, noticing the dragonflies is even more important now. As I wrap up the last of my parent’s probate over a year after their passing, and even as I sit and write this, the family is continuing to be dealt the blows that life does when life “life’s you.” As I finish this story tonight my family is hit with another unexplained death to add to the laundry list of people that we love. On Father’s Day this year, I watch as my little sister, who has lost so much already, tries to wrap her mind around the tragic loss of her brother-in-law who drowned in the river today. Another family is suffering tonight, and my sister is part of that family.
I do not know why so many things occur in life the way that they do. Some days I feel like I am having an out-of-body experience watching all the chaos that is erupting around me. I feel still in those moments, but I know that I am being protected momentarily and that my time to enter the eye of the storm will come back around too. For now, I can’t question the life that I am afforded or its circumstances. I can feel the feelings. I can be in the moment. I can cherish the time I have and love the people that are in it. But I can’t stop the unknown. It’s life.
As I watch the dragonfly disappear into the afternoon sun, I am reminded of a power much greater than me that is in charge of this orchestra called life. I cannot explain the unexplainable, but I can rest assured that there is a larger picture than just mine being painted and that it is being painted perfectly by the most perfect creator of all. I call it the Dragonfly Effect.
Wherever you are in the world, whether it is night or day, may I offer you prayers of comfort and strength. Tonight as I speak to the higher power of my understanding, who I call God, please know you are in my prayers. May you receive all that you stand in need of to be the person that you were designed special to be. May you be able to witness the Dragonfly Effect in your life. Light and love.
~Tami Harper Winn~
The story written here is solely the work of the author’s. Any use or reproduction of this article is prohibited without written consent of the author or credit to the author through works cited.