Daily Life - Not Everything Is As It Seems
Not Everything Is As It Seems
I got an ass-chewing a while back. That's right, I was completely put in my place. At the time I felt it was entirely unjustified, but strangely, I dealt with the reprimand and spotlight very well. I must say that I was quite calm, actually. Strangely.
I won't go into specifics, because that's not what I'm trying to point out here, but at the time I had my lashing, I was already in a pretty rough place. It had been all week long. I had one issue after another come up and then SURPRISE! something new to deal with, and I wasn't as prepared for it as I thought I was. Even after I found out about the surprise, and I worked hard to be in the proper mindset, I quickly slipped back into - grump-mode. Ya, that sounds much nicer than what I was told I was being. Grump-mode.
When I received the tongue lashing, none to gently I might add, it was over a nonexistent issue. I could have jumped and began fighting back, but there was a truth in the matter - it just wasn't due to what the reprimandor was referring to. Nonetheless, the result was exactly the same.
It was directly because of this ass-chewing that I had come to realize how I was acting that evening. Regardless as to why I was incorrectly being put in my place, there was definitely good reason to put me in my place, it just wasn't for the reason it all started over.
It's interesting to me how this situation showed me where I was in the wrong, even if the initial "wrong doing" was not even a thing. Yet it allowed me to see where I was indeed incorrect in my actions and thought processes in an entirely different way, for some things completely unrelated.
This is a new thing to me. In my past, one of two things would have happened. I would have either ignored the other person entirely, "Let the trash take itself out, I don't need them anyway!" or I would have simply put them in their place and utterly shut them down. But again, that was the past. Today, I can see where I am in the wrong, even if the initial purpose for the whipping was simply incorrect.
Not everything is as it seems.