Adventure of Choice: The Sober Alternative
by Charlie Cheshire
An unusual and exciting, experience or activity.
One of the first things I noticed after I quit drinking was all of the time I suddenly had on my hands. Now that my first and only priority was no longer a choice, a world of possibilities opened up to me. The dreams of exploring and adventuring that I have always had were now tangible options. I refuse to be a dreamer with bar stool fantasies. Adventure is calling us all, let’s answer it with a clear head and a full heart.
I can only imagine that, like me, most newly sober people start accruing a large bucket list the longer they are clean. The next thing to do is to step out of the safety of the comfort zone and start making your dreams reality.
It is important to remember that there will always be dozens of reasons not to follow your dreams. Sometimes you just need to go for it, and jump in and see what happens. If you are not sure where to start, just find something that you think you might enjoy that is outside of your comfort zone. Make it something new! Whether you live in a city or a rural area, the possibilities are restricted only by your own imagination. Below is a brief list of things that are offered in coastal city like San Diego, CA.
- Join a team sport league
- Rock climbing
- Sky diving
- Learn how to trapeze
- Mountain biking
- Road biking
Spotlight: Join a Sport League
This above list includes, but is not limited to activities I have already tried or intend to experience as soon as possible. Obviously I can not do them all as once, so sports were on the top of my list. I joined San Diego Floor Hockey League (SDFHL) almost immediately after finishing treatment. This involved playing a pickup game so that the league captains could watch me play before I got drafted on draft day. After a new player gets drafted he is ready to play, all that is required is to show up on sunday to play. I started noticing benifits immediately. Which include:
- Hockey added a healthy habit to my week.
- More excersise every week
- It added people to my life that would be sober when I’m around them.
- It added a stress-reliever to my life.
- Through competition it added extra purpose to my life.
- There is a great deal of pride and satisfaction when my team wins.
- Early games are family friendly.
- This league is very beginner friendly. I had never played organized hockey before joining my team.
- If you do not want to play on an organized team, you can show up for pick up games on Thursdays.
There were a some negitives associated with this specific league
- Some games were scheduled fairly late.
- There are no practices so if you are a new player, you have to figure it out on the fly, during games.
- The league included a $40 entry fee
- You have to buy a hockey stick, gloves, and it is suggested to have shin pads, but I do not wear them. Prices vary depending on where you buy your gear. I would suggest a used sports store.
- Late games are not family friendly.
If you not able to join a league or are not willing to make the commitment then there are less drastic options that could be considered. You could join a YMCA or a sports club of some kind that offers many different options for a set price. These types of establishments have many different options that you can try out. If you do not enjoy something you simply replace it with something else that they offer.
Another option is to locate a place that hosts unofficial pick up games for the sport of your choosing. For example, many parks have basketball courts where a group of individuals show up regularly to play with each other. These games are generally free and very welcoming to new players.
Remember, try new things! Get out of your comfort zone. Fill your time with productive, healthy habits that introduce you to like minded, sober people. If your new excursions make you nervous then you are probably doing it right!
Stay tuned for the next edition of “Adventure of Choice” I will be reviewing another San Diego based adventure, the 3 Sisters Falls hike, Descanso, CA. Until then, take the road less traveled!