Learn by what?
I hear people in meetings say, "You learn from MISTAKES! You have to make them, that's how we learn!"
What about learning from SUCCESSES?
Not everything has to be a mistake in order to learn something from it. It is highly possible to say, "Oh, wow! Well that turned out good! I'm so glad I thought of that! I think I'll do that again next time!"
As opposed to:
"Goddamn it! I'm such a loser for messing that up, I shouldn't have done it that way because it was destructive and painful. Guess I won't do that again."
The end result is the same, we've still killed the spider; but option one wasn't as destructive and didn't burn down the house! Well, not so destructive for us anyway, it looks like the poor spider was done for either way.
If we focus on the things we've learned through successes, we're happier and more positive about things in our life, which in turn attracts positivity.
If we focus on the things we've learned through mistakes, we're less happy and more negative about things in our life, which in turn attracts negativity.
Does that mean that focusing solely on successes means that we'll never make a mistake again? Of course not, that's absurd! It means that we need to learn from the mistake, but to focus on the ones we have successes with! This trains us to slow down and look for the "better" decisions, and if we're thinking positive, chances are that 1) we'll make the better choice, and 2) if we do make the wrong one, it will be easier to overcome because of our positive attitude; we've trained ourselves to be POSITIVE.
We should learn from both our mistakes, of course, but focus on our successes. We'll be happier we did.
Thanks for letting me share!