So tonight, I'm doing things differently than I did last night. Differently than last year. Differently than I ever have in my entire life, actually.
When I was growing up, The Religion I grew up in considered dances "bad," "sinful," and was something we were never supposed to do.
So I never went.
I missed out on YEARS of doing things that I now consider normal, and that most normal, socially acceptable people do. Key phrase: socially acceptable.
Let's skip the holes for now and fast forward to about a six weeks ago.
I was in a meeting, and this subject somehow got brought up. When I told everyone there I'd never been to a dance, they were all pretty surprised (as everyone always is), especially given my age. Then, I was TOLD that I was going to go to the Halloween Dance.
Fast forward a bit more...
Today, I was contemplating on just staying home again. Ugh. Why? There's no reason for this! So I sent a text to one of the gals in the group, asking if she was going. She said she was. Damn, my "out" wasn't going to work. When I told her I didn't have a costume, she made a few costume suggestions.
And yes, I actually needed suggestions, because Halloween isn't my favorite time of year. I've never really liked Halloween. It was the dressing up, mostly. I didn't like looking in the mirror and seeing someone else, it always bothered me. I would just stay home when all of my brothers would go out. They would come back with tons of candy, and they shared with me. I'm not a candy kind of person. Never really have been. I'm a meat and potatoes kind of guy.
Back to my point; so tonight, I'm going to the party, and I'm "dressing up." It involves a hat. I told the gal via text that I would go as a "recovering alcoholic," but she told me that was cheating, and I couldn't do that. So, instead, I’m going as a <censored here for the sake of anonymity>! I hope that’s acceptable.
But this brought up a question for me. At an event like this, where this particular anonymous group likes to keep things — well, anonymous — what are the rules around taking photos and pictures? Can we post such an event online? Or share with our friends and families out side of this group?
One suggestion was mentioned to me, and that was: As long as we don't state that it is at this type of an event and the people there aren't confirmed to be associated with them, then anonymity has not been broken, and it is okay to do so.
Hey, I've only been sober for roughly two years. And I've never been a social person, so the social rules alone are new to me. I’d like some feedback. Is it “legal” to post such event photos, with the subjects' permission, of course, on social media as long as we don’t state what event this is at?
I shall ponder. Meanwhile, I hope everyone’s Halloween night goes/went well. I'm leaving for a party!